Whoa! That's a loaded question. And you're sure to get many different answers. So, here goes mine...The simple answer to the question above is yess, but only to a certain point. It depends on what you are looking for and how much time and energy you are willing to devote to developing a friendship/relationship.
My history with success has been varied. I have been on several dates with men that I've met online. There were good dates (a few) and not so good dates (many more). I could wax poetic about all the things I've endured on 'online first dates'. As I jog my memory, I recall the caucasian CPA with the salt & pepper afro; and then there was the Totally Awesome Guy Who was Shorter than Me. And, who can forget the 'Marathon Man'. I will let your imagination wander [on how these guys got their pseudo nicknames].
In closing, I must admit that online dating can be fun. However, the most important thing is to approach it with a clear understanding of what you realistically hope to get [from online dating]. Is it a friend in your head (someone you chat with via e-mail and/or IM); an IRL (in real life) friend; or something fun and playful with no strings attached.
Remember, online dating takes time and energy. So, turn on your monitor, grab your iPod and start making friends [or whatever you're seeking] through your favorite online dating site.
Signed, Huniluv, an Online Dating Veteran
Whoa! That's a loaded question. And you're sure to get many different answers. So, here goes mine...The simple answer to the question above is yess, but only to a certain point. It depends on what you are looking for and how much time and energy you are willing to devote to developing a friendship/relationship.
My history with success has been varied. I have been on several dates with men that I've met online. There were good dates (a few) and not so good dates (many more). I could wax poetic about all the things I've endured on 'online first dates'. As I jog my memory, I recall the caucasian CPA with the salt & pepper afro; and then there was the Totally Awesome Guy Who was Shorter than Me. And, who can forget the 'Marathon Man'. I will let your imagination wander [on how these guys got their pseudo nicknames].
In closing, I must admit that online dating can be fun. However, the most important thing is to approach it with a clear understanding of what you realistically hope to get [from online dating]. Is it a friend in your head (someone you chat with via e-mail and/or IM); an IRL (in real life) friend; or something fun and playful with no strings attached.
Remember, online dating takes time and energy. So, turn on your monitor, grab your iPod and start making friends [or whatever you're seeking] through your favorite online dating site.
Posted by Sobers: "To be honest, dating women online can be a truly depressing thing. Unless your a model handsome earning over 100k a year, your screwed. Women seem to reject any and all guys without even given them a chance thinking if they just hang in there long enough prince charming will turn up."
Sobers, I haven't found that to be true at all. I don't consider myself ugly, but I've never thought that I'm extremely drop dead gorgeous either. As my wife would tell me, "You're not Brad on Young and the Restless."
However, I think you need to give women a bit more benefit of the doubt. I later found out that I almost didn't get a second date with my future wife. The reason? Because apparently, I showed up in "Getup" and she thought my hairstyle really sucked. However, I got that second date because I happened to mention that a girlfriend of mine was taking me shopping for new clothes the next weekend. I'd recently lost a lot of weight and needed help picking out a new wardrobe. I was also getting her advice on a new hairstyle. My future wife decided I couldn't be all bad, if I was willing to listen to feminine advice. I found out what she really thought about the clothes I wore on that first date when I introduced her to my female friend for the first time.
If you aren't the most handsome boy on the block, get some help with the wardrobe. It can't hurt.
Posted by Sobers: "To be honest, dating women online can be a truly depressing thing. Unless your a model handsome earning over 100k a year, your screwed. Women seem to reject any and all guys without even given them a chance thinking if they just hang in there long enough prince charming will turn up."
Sobers, I haven't found that to be true at all. I don't consider myself ugly, but I've never thought that I'm extremely drop dead gorgeous either. As my wife would tell me, "You're not Brad on Young and the Restless."
However, I think you need to give women a bit more benefit of the doubt. I later found out that I almost didn't get a second date with my future wife. The reason? Because apparently, I showed up in "Getup" and she thought my hairstyle really sucked. However, I got that second date because I happened to mention that a girlfriend of mine was taking me shopping for new clothes the next weekend. I'd recently lost a lot of weight and needed help picking out a new wardrobe. I was also getting her advice on a new hairstyle. My future wife decided I couldn't be all bad, if I was willing to listen to feminine advice. I found out what she really thought about the clothes I wore on that first date when I introduced her to my female friend for the first time.
If you aren't the most handsome boy on the block, get some help with the wardrobe. It can't hurt.
Quoting: Originally posted by Booklover73 Hey Rumple, We are living the life to the fullest! Never a dull moment. Well, except when I'm doing homework and such. Can't wait till I'm done with school, then we can spend even more time together.
you ARE my hero... and role model for many as well...
HOWEVER, to keep the playing field fair and balanced, it would appear that the poster child for abstinence and celibacy has appeared with words of wisdom and ambidexterity in abundance...
then again keeping a positive spin on the sobering words of wisdom, this approach could be a new alternative approach to birth control... no gender mixing and living vicariously through ones own libido... pass the ky...
jus' luv that kool and the gang song...
celibate good times...!!! yeh...yeh...!!!
Quoting Booklover73:
Hey Rumple, We are living the life to the fullest! Never a dull moment. Well, except when I'm doing homework and such. Can't wait till I'm done with school, then we can spend even more time together.
you ARE my hero... and role model for many as well...
HOWEVER, to keep the playing field fair and balanced, it would appear that the poster child for abstinence and celibacy has appeared with words of wisdom and ambidexterity in abundance...
then again keeping a positive spin on the sobering words of wisdom, this approach could be a new alternative approach to birth control... no gender mixing and living vicariously through ones own libido... pass the ky...
To be honest, dating women online can be a truly depressing thing. Unless your a model handsome earning over 100k a year, your screwed. Women seem to reject any and all guys without even given them a chance thinking if they just hang in there long enough prince charming will turn up.
They don't care, they a HUGE sexual advantage over men and they know their will be lots of suitors waiting around the corner. If you are ugly and poor, you are screwed and nothing you can say will get cute, good-looking girls to go out with you. I've COMPLETELY lost interest in trying to find a girl--it just won't happen, and I've stopped trying and caring.
Since then I've devoted myself to literature, art, music, and my career. So guys, if you are ugly like me, you have two choices: date ugly women and feel bad and lower your self esteem, or don't date at all.
To be honest, dating women online can be a truly depressing thing. Unless your a model handsome earning over 100k a year, your screwed. Women seem to reject any and all guys without even given them a chance thinking if they just hang in there long enough prince charming will turn up.
They don't care, they a HUGE sexual advantage over men and they know their will be lots of suitors waiting around the corner. If you are ugly and poor, you are screwed and nothing you can say will get cute, good-looking girls to go out with you. I've COMPLETELY lost interest in trying to find a girl--it just won't happen, and I've stopped trying and caring.
Since then I've devoted myself to literature, art, music, and my career. So guys, if you are ugly like me, you have two choices: date ugly women and feel bad and lower your self esteem, or don't date at all.
Hey Rumple, We are living the life to the fullest! Never a dull moment. Well, except when I'm doing homework and such. Can't wait till I'm done with school, then we can spend even more time together.
Hey Rumple, We are living the life to the fullest! Never a dull moment. Well, except when I'm doing homework and such. Can't wait till I'm done with school, then we can spend even more time together.
most of the guys I have met inline get fizzled with the amount f energy it takes. I got fizzled with the lack of sharing of information (ie ignoring or not answering certain questions)
I'm still at it a bit. But deciding I may have to skip the online thing except to get a few laughs, and find local establishments to meet people.
I get you TriChique. I was corresponding with a chick who wouldn't answer my questions. Would act like I hadn't asked them. I finally just stopped writing to her.
Don't give it up though. It took about three years, but I finally found the right one.
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TriChique write: I would have to agree with you.
most of the guys I have met inline get fizzled with the amount f energy it takes. I got fizzled with the lack of sharing of information (ie ignoring or not answering certain questions)
I'm still at it a bit. But deciding I may have to skip the online thing except to get a few laughs, and find local establishments to meet people.
I get you TriChique. I was corresponding with a chick who wouldn't answer my questions. Would act like I hadn't asked them. I finally just stopped writing to her.
Don't give it up though. It took about three years, but I finally found the right one.
ONLY if you meet someone from west africa or nigeria, own a limo service and related to the artist formerly known as, and has limo availability or you're THAT citizen...
Does Online Dating Work?
ONLY if you meet someone from west africa or nigeria, own a limo service and related to the artist formerly known as, and has limo availability or you're THAT citizen...
I am wondering why you bother so much...is it love? passion? too much friction out of nothing here...anyway, a big KISS to you today!
now THAT's 'pathetic'.... i'll pass on the kiss and turn the other 'cheek'...this way i won't see what's coming.... amazing how your reading comprehension skills go out of context and avoid the meat and chew on the fat...... even more pathetic is how you can't stay quiet and play reruns......
I am wondering why you bother so much...is it love? passion? too much friction out of nothing here...anyway, a big KISS to you today!
now THAT's 'pathetic'.... i'll pass on the kiss and turn the other 'cheek'...this way i won't see what's coming.... amazing how your reading comprehension skills go out of context and avoid the meat and chew on the fat...... even more pathetic is how you can't stay quiet and play reruns......
Wasn't confessin Babes......thought I was perfectly clear bout my intentions...........one of those off on relationships..........when "off" you breathe a sigh of relief but wonder what if? .......when "on" your wondering what the heck have you gotten yourself into now?............admittedly a "challenge".........only wish is to make him see his own beauty....he really is a gorgeous man inside and out!......whether my "fearless warrior" or someone bordering on the "lunatic fringe"...........I've accepted him.........now if only the courtesy was extended to me
............I understand Lady more than I care to admit........one side is deeply hurt by past relationships........but the other side says "Suck it up girl.........everyone has been thru this!"
Wasn't confessin Babes......thought I was perfectly clear bout my intentions...........one of those off on relationships..........when "off" you breathe a sigh of relief but wonder what if? .......when "on" your wondering what the heck have you gotten yourself into now?............admittedly a "challenge".........only wish is to make him see his own beauty....he really is a gorgeous man inside and out!......whether my "fearless warrior" or someone bordering on the "lunatic fringe"...........I've accepted him.........now if only the courtesy was extended to me
............I understand Lady more than I care to admit........one side is deeply hurt by past relationships........but the other side says "Suck it up girl.........everyone has been thru this!"
I'll jump to Ladys defense here...............okay Mr Rumplestilskin2005(you know your in trouble when people use your full name,eh?)............
ohhhhhhhhhh goosey.... not in trouble at all....... the comment was tossed out under a weak rebuttal....after all the spots were erased and only showed red....
however, the enjoyment of your having someone is irrelevant to the issue that supposedly was in the past tense...... you still 'get it'.... but i will still take your confession....
I'll jump to Ladys defense here...............okay Mr Rumplestilskin2005(you know your in trouble when people use your full name,eh?)............
ohhhhhhhhhh goosey.... not in trouble at all....... the comment was tossed out under a weak rebuttal....after all the spots were erased and only showed red....
however, the enjoyment of your having someone is irrelevant to the issue that supposedly was in the past tense...... you still 'get it'.... but i will still take your confession....
I completely agree with what you said. You cannot look at online dating as the end all/ be all. It is no more and no less than dating in the real world with the exception you can more safely build re pore. To all that are trying it for the first time, be patient and don't assume anthing. Remember what you hid or didn't hide behind your online persona and reasonably expect the same in return. People are human and will make mistakes. Don't judge the system by individual failures.
I completely agree with what you said. You cannot look at online dating as the end all/ be all. It is no more and no less than dating in the real world with the exception you can more safely build re pore. To all that are trying it for the first time, be patient and don't assume anthing. Remember what you hid or didn't hide behind your online persona and reasonably expect the same in return. People are human and will make mistakes. Don't judge the system by individual failures.
"and if you have who you want when you want then your presence here would be considered cheating...."
I'll jump to Ladys defense here...............okay Mr Rumplestilskin2005(you know your in trouble when people use your full name,eh?)............
.........I too "have" someone...........someone who has powerful magnetism, someone who is imaginative, passionate, unforgettable and oh so original.......
......however on the flip side he is also dark, jealous, moody, secretive, intense and just a tad devious.......
...........kindof like Leonardo da Vinci and Count Dracula all rolled up into one...............you can imagine my confusion!?
............having someone and makin it work are two different things.............however I don't consider it cheating......for me it's about talking, understanding, relating.........and yea maybe just a wee little bit of personal therapy
"and if you have who you want when you want then your presence here would be considered cheating...."
I'll jump to Ladys defense here...............okay Mr Rumplestilskin2005(you know your in trouble when people use your full name,eh?)............
.........I too "have" someone...........someone who has powerful magnetism, someone who is imaginative, passionate, unforgettable and oh so original.......
......however on the flip side he is also dark, jealous, moody, secretive, intense and just a tad devious.......
...........kindof like Leonardo da Vinci and Count Dracula all rolled up into one...............you can imagine my confusion!?
............having someone and makin it work are two different things.............however I don't consider it cheating......for me it's about talking, understanding, relating.........and yea maybe just a wee little bit of personal therapy
